Why non-verbal communication may cost you that dream job.

While having the best well thought out, well researched answers during an interview goes a long way; your non-verbal communication plays a big part of the success.

This includes:- your body language and the elements of your speech besides the words, such as your intonation, speaking speed, pauses and sighs, and facial expressions, sitting position, your dressing style and grooming  e.t.c.  If your non-verbal communication is not up to par, it won’t matter how well you answer the questions.

DO’s of Nonverbal communication

  • Proper grooming -  dress appropriately , clean polished shoes, little or no perfume or aftershave
  • As you wait, be pleasant and friendly
  • Sit quietly
  • A firm handshake with the interviewer  - make sure your hands are not sweaty and sticky
  • Keep your palms open rather than clenched in a fist
  • Make eye contact with the interviewer for a few seconds at a time.
  • Smile and nod (at appropriate times) when the interviewer is talking, but don't overdo it. Don't laugh unless the interviewer does first.
  • Be polite and keep an even tone to your speech. Don't be too loud or too quiet.
  • Don't slouch.
  • Do relax and lean forward a little towards the interviewer so you appear interested and engaged.
  • Don't lean back. You will look too casual and relaxed.
  • Keep your feet on the floor and your back against the lower back of the chair.
  • Pay close attention to the interviewer. Take notes if you are worried you will not remember something.
  • Don't interrupt and listen attentively.
  • Stay calm. Even if you had a bad experience at a previous position or were fired, keep your emotions to yourself and do not show anger, cry or frown.
  • Not sure what to do with your hands? Hold a pen and your notepad or rest an arm on the chair or on your lap, so you look comfortable. Don't let your arms fly around the room when you're making a point.

Don’t s of non- verbal communication

  • Reeking of cigarette smoke
  • Chewing gum
  • Disheveled look
  • Too much deodorant
  • Sweaty smell L
  • Scuffed shoes
  • Inappropriate attire
  • Distracted candidate during the interview
  • Interrupting interviewers
  • Talking on the phone as you wait
  • Listening to music as you wait
  • Pacing up and down as you wait

What to Bring to an Interview

  • A copy of your resume and certificates
  • Notepad and pen
  • Breath mint (before you enter the building not a chewing gum)
  • Women: extra pair of stockings  (in case the worn pair runs)

What Not to Bring to an Interview

  • Cell phone
  • iPod
  • Gum
  • Cigarettes
  • Candy
  • Soda or coffee
  • Scuffed shoes, messy and/or not-so-clean clothes

Nonverbal Communication at the End of the Interview

Before leaving the interview, be sure to give the interviewer another firm handshake and smile. On your way out, say thank you and goodbye to the receptionist or anyone else you spoke to during the interview.

Of course, your verbal communication is important too. Remember your manners and thank the interviewer for taking the time to meet with you. Don't use slang. Speak clearly and definitely.

How to Prepare

Remember that the image the interviewer has of you when she first meets you is the one that is going to last. If you're slouchy, sloppy or messy, it won't matter how well you answer the interview questions. You are not going to get the job.

When practicing for an interview, work on your nonverbal communications as well as your other interviewing skills. It could be what clinches the job offer for you.  You can practice with a friend or interview coach who conducts a mock interview and gives you feedback. You can also film yourself and review your nonverbal communication.

Good luck with your winning interview!!!!!!